The Importance of Emotional Intelligence
Updated: Apr 5
When our emotional health is in a bad state, so is our level of self-esteem. We have to slow down and deal with what is troubling us, so that we can enjoy the simple joy of being happy and at peace with ourselves. -Jess C. Scott
I ask people who come into my office what they would like to see get better in their lives. Often I am told "I want to be happy" or "I want to be content". This sounds like a simple matter on the surface. However, we we start to discover the thoughts, feelings and behaviors that bring us unhappiness we realize how much there is to see and understand about ourselves before we can create these positive emotional states.
One of the greatest challenges we all face is having the courage to look at ourselves and be brave enough to change those thoughts, feelings and behaviors that cause us to feel unhappy or less content. The first step is to become more aware of ourselves. In a world that moves so quickly and has so many distractions, it can be hard to slow down and take a look at where we are and where we want to go. We can get caught up in the need to be constantly fed information or want to have the newest piece of technology. But we must slow down to observe ourselves because without observing ourselves, we can't change.
It is commonly thought that people don't like to change. The irony is, we all change all the time. So we have a choice; we can either spend a lifetime fighting change or embrace it. If we refuse to change rigid patterns that no longer serve us we experience the often uncomfortable emotional states of unhappiness and discontent. But when we embrace change we have the ability to create a life worth living.